From A Dads Point of View. Part 1
Let me preface this by saying. I took a long shot at this. My husband is a very vocal man and tells me sweet nothings here and there, however, my husband is not a writer. I never thought in a million years that he would write this for me, but I had to take a shot and ask him anyway!
I asked him to tell me his point of view from his time during me being pregnant and breastfeeding.
Specifically:
What went through your mind when I told you I was pregnant?
How did you feel when you found out he was a boy?
What was going through your mind when I would randomly start crying? were you ready to run? lol
How did you feel or what were you thinking when you heard his heartbeat for the first time?
How was it for you caring for me while I was pregnant and taking on more responsibilites and working a full time job?
When it was getting closer to due date time, were you nervous?
When we went to the hospital to have a baby how was your stay? having to watch me go through being induced etc.
How did you feel when it was time to take our newborn home? were you nervous?
How was it staying home with a newborn, sleep deprived and going back to work?
When I left Luca for the first time on a trip to target and I called you crying, what was going through your mind?
When it was finally time to stop breastfeeding and a left to Vegas for 3 days, how did that go for you?
It was A LOT of questions and he gave me answers…
I am going to split this into parts because It is quite the read and I dont want overwhelm my readers.
So here we go:
Finding out we’re pregnant
I remember laying on the bed after a long day of work and my wife handed me a white stick, in which i thought she was handing me a covid test stick that was showing she was positive for Covid. I got semi upset because she was still kissing me and I was like why are you trying to get me sick?!? Then she told me it wasn't a covid test and it took me a good 30 seconds to click as my mind was slow at the end of the day. It finally hit me that she handed me a positive pregnancy test and that we were going to have a baby. Mind you that we already have 3 children. My wife had one child before we got together, age 10, and I had two, that were ages 4 and 5. I preface that information to say that getting handed a positive pregnancy test made me put my face in the pillows. Leading up to this moment we had discussed how we wanted to have a baby together, but after trying for a couple of weeks we decided maybe it wasn't the best time because my two little ones still needed a lot of attention and help because they were still so young. So mentally I got out of trying to have a baby mindset, and then a couple of weeks later I got handed a positive test. I was very overwhelmed by it. Of course I was excited, but at the same time my brain started running laps about if we were going to be okay financially and if my other kids were going to be okay with giving up more attention or watching their daddy give all his time and effort into a baby instead of spending that time with them. Not to mention all the sleepless nights and attention I was going to have to give to the newborn. Basically everything that comes along with having a child. It's not the same stress that new parents get. I already know what the responsibility is. I had done it twice already. So I knew what was coming. It was a lot to take in, in that moment when my then fiancé handed me that positive test.
After a couple of weeks I was able to settle into the situation and start getting excited more and more about bringing the new addition into the family, which to me was the final piece that was going to bring our mixed families together. Thats how I've looked at it since then and I always will. It was meant to be.
Our little secret - Margarita fest 2022 and preggos (He drank some margs for me)
